It has been two years since I placed my son for adoption, and my boys, Edward and Matthias, seven and six years old respectively, still ask me when their baby brother is going to come home. While it is rather endearing that they want to play with (or perhaps just boss around) their brother, I […]
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Growing up I never imagined myself as a single parent. As a small child, I thought that I would marry a wonderful man, and we would have a few children. Around high school the idea of children was no longer appealing. Then I found myself pregnant at 19 years old and in my second year
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1. This Is Hard Being a birthmother is super difficult. Adoptive parents are often met with praise and admiration in society, but birth mothers don’t have the same experience. After adoption I not only have to deal with issues of bereavement, but also manage my status in society as a woman who placed her child.
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This day, exactly two years ago, I held my baby boy in my arms for the final time and said goodbye. It was the last time I would see him until the time comes for us to meet again. He is now two years old, and I have missed many milestones, smiles, hugs, and mommy/son
Matthew will be two this week! I am so excited about his birthday. I cannot wait to see pictures and hear all about what he has been doing. It will be a very exciting time to get the update in the mail. He is a little stud; I am sure. Throughout the year, I experience
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When people find out that I am a birth parent, they are usually a bit shocked. I have two kids that I get to raise as my own; I have a college degree and a stable job; I am usually positive and happy unless there are major stressors going on (I recently had to put
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“So many times in life we make hard decisions and we overcome them. We use either family support, friends support, or even the support from experts like therapists and counselors. In my own experience, not everyone was supportive of my decision. Friends, family, or someone you hardly know may tell you how they feel and
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“Mom, Dad, I’m pregnant and I have decided on adoption.” You may picture it like an uncomfortable scene in a movie. You may envision that there will be some shouting, tears and stress that will accompany your announcement. You already dread doing it, but pregnancy is not something you can hide indefinitely. The best choice
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People are often curious about the entire process of adoption and what it must feel like. There really is no one way to describe it correctly; it is a blend of hundreds of colliding emotions and thoughts. It goes without saying that this is no easy task for a birthmother, who does eventually decide to
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I am very affectionate towards my children. I give them hugs and kisses. I play with them and let them sleep with me every once in a while. I love them very much, and I want them to know that. More importantly, I want them to know what love looks like. Many hugs and kisses
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