“So many times in life we make hard decisions and we overcome them. We use either family support, friends support, or even the support from experts like therapists and counselors. In my own experience, not everyone was supportive of my decision. Friends, family, or someone you hardly know may tell you how they feel and it may be difficult to hear. I came to realize that:
The only thing that matters is how you feel, and to remember those feelings.
In my own placement situation, I felt like the child I was carrying was not my own and I was carrying the child that was meant for someone else. Other people I’ve talked to have said that they simply wanted a life for the child they couldn’t give them. This may not be the situation you are in, but whatever the reason is, it’s completely YOUR decision. Remember why YOU are choosing adoption and remember that you have support! No matter how much opposition you face, you are doing a beautiful thing for your child and your child will be grateful to you!
Postpartum depression is a serious problem, not to mention the added stress and emotion of placing a child for adoption. You may feel overwhelmed and feel you can’t talk to friends or family because they won’t understand how you feel or where you’re coming from. But, that’s ok! There is help after placement whenever you need it. Don’t be ashamed to say that you don’t know how to feel, because sometimes you don’t. Placing a child for adoption is hard, but it is possible to feel peace and happiness through it and know that what you are doing is a beautiful thing.
You become part of another family and the story of how your baby arrived into this world. YOU made that happen! YOU are giving others the ability to be a mother, a father, and even a sibling in some cases. No two adoption stories are the same; no two people are the same after adoption. It’s ok to cry, but you never have to feel alone. A Act of Love has so many loving and caring people, so many different stories of adoption, and so many people who WANT to help you. Never feel alone because adoption is about creating families, Act of Love is that family, for me and for you. “
Welcome to the Birth-Mothers Club -Noelle