Act of Love Adoption Agency is on Facebook. Our Facebook page allows us to connect with all of our followers and help them stay updated on current information. Adoptive parents that follow Act of Love Adoption on Facebook stay informed about current adoption situations that are available. Our goal is to find loving homes for babies that need adoption and we hope that by sharing the information about these infants on Facebook, we can help find homes for them. We also post detailed articles about a variety of adoption topics that are informative to both adoptive parents and birth parents. Many of our staff have adopted children and understand how adoptive parents and birth parents feel. We love posting images of adoptive parents who have recently adopted their babies through A Act of Love Adoption Agency, sharing these special moments with other Facebook friends. We also love sharing stories and testimonials from our birth parents and posting pictures of new babies that adoptive parents share with us, which includes sharing uplifting quotes about adoption. We want our Facebook page to be welcoming to all prospective adoptive parents or birth parents that want to place their babies for adoption.
Act of Love Adoption Agency is on YouTube. As an adoption agency, we provide supportive care for adoptive families and birth parents. Our YouTube channel features videos provided by adoptive parents and birth parents, explaining their journey through the adoption process. These touching videos are captivating and help families through these moving, yet sometimes trying times. Act of Love Adoptions offers several types of support, including counseling services, financial aid and even prenatal care assistance. As a reputable U.S. non-profit 501(c)(3) adoption organization, we have been operating entirely on donations and adoption service fees more than 20 years. We believe this helps us provide better services for both adoptive parents and birthparents. Visit our YouTube channel today, start discussions and begin engaging with other people going through the same journeys in life. Whether you want to post videos or simply watch other testimonials, our channel is waiting!
Act of Love Adoption Agency is on Twitter. As a reputable adoption agency, we strive to keep adoptive parents and birth parents updated about our latest news, stories, testimonials and adoption-related subjects. Whether it is sharing a simple, yet joyful family picture, a loving adoption quote or the latest births, we love tweeting our success stories to other followers. For more than 20 years, we have been working with both birth parents and adoptive parents to help facilitate non-profit adoptions. Since Twitter allows us to share our photos and videos, we are easily able to upload the latest pictures of our successful adoptions with birth parents and adoptive families, including updates on families as they grow and prosper. As a comprehensive full-service adoption agency, Act of Love Adoption offers adoption placements, shorter than average placement times, home study reports and even post-placement services. Adoptive parents also benefit from several adoption programs, including adoption orientation classes and parenting classes. Follow us on Twitter for daily updates, tweets and the latest adoption news.
Act of Love Adoption Agency is on Google+. We make it easy to stay in touch with all the latest adoption-related news, including adoption articles, information and photos. Google+ provides interaction among interested users with circles, highlighting our non-profit services, which include infant adoptions, home study services, post-placement services, open and closed adoptions, legal services, direct placements and counseling services. We also offer Interstate Compact Services, adoption orientation classes, adoptive parenting classes and even an outreach program that extends throughout the U.S. As our site shows, we are dedicated to working with prospective adoptive families and birth parents to help children find loving, open and caring homes where they can flourish. With more than 20 years of experience, we help make the experience a positive journey, never letting couples or birth parents face this decision-making process alone. Our expert staff has personal experience adopting children, which gives them an emotional and personal edge when working with families and birth parents in these types of situations. A Act of Love is dedicated to helping make sure that children find good, supportive and stable homes.
Utah’s adoption agencies are receiving a lot of attention in regard to birthfather rights. Having been part of a family touched by adoption, I have closely watched the practices of several agencies in regard to how birthfathers are involved in the adoption process. As many of you know, usually only bad news is covered by the media. This seems to be the case in Utah adoptions. Of the hundreds of adoptions that take place each year in the state, just a handful of adoptions are contested. These make the news and put a negative spin on Utah adoptions and agencies.
In analyzing the statistics of one Utah adoption agency, A Act of Love, it was found that 72% of their adoptions in the past year have had either a birthfather aware of the adoption plan and/or sign relinquishment paperwork. This agency makes every effort to notify potential birthfathers of a pending adoption and offer services to that birthfather, including openness. Many birthfathers are supportive of an adoption plan and participate in counseling and selecting adoptive parents together with the birthmother. Whether or not the birthparents are together in a relationship at the time of the adoption, many have stated that knowing the other one is supportive of the plan makes the placement even better. Other situations make the signing of both birthparents more difficult. These can include scenarios like sexual assault, date rape, abusive relationships and birthfather’s identity and whereabouts are unknown. For situations such as these, state laws vary and will need to be addressed according to the state in which the baby is conceived and/or born.
Adoption law can be difficult because every state has different laws. Again, in most cases, the laws in the states where the baby is conceived and born are followed.
Many states have Putative Father Registries, where a father can establish his paternity and willingness to provide for the unborn child. A “putative father” is a man who may be a child’s father, but who was not married to the child’s mother before the child was born and has not established that he is the father in a court proceeding.
You can consult the National Directory of Putative Father Registries to locate your state’s registry and requirements. The following states are listed on-line as having a Putative Father Registry. According to National Directory of Putative Father Registries from Erik L. Smith: an asterisk (*) means that the state, by statute, regards a putative father’s ignorance of the pregnancy or the birth as no excuse for not registering with the putative father registry. Other states may imply similar theory through their case law, even if the statutes do not mention it.
Placing a baby for adoption is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life. Knowing that you are not in a place where you can offer your child the basic necessities he/she will need at this time, adoption is a choice that can bring you peace. As you contemplate your pregnancy and the options available to you, some may tell you that adoption is a selfish decision. Having known hundreds of adopted children and birthparents that have placed them, I can tell you that adoption is the most unselfish decision anyone can make. Choosing to give your baby life but knowing you will not be raising him/her is a sacrifice on your part, but one that will fill your heart with joy, knowing you did the very best you could do at this time in your life.
In your journey through the adoption process it is best to take some time to really learn about adoption, think about the things you hear and read about, and then listen to your instincts. You are the biological parent of this child and you have the stewardship over him/her. As you study, you will begin to learn what feels comfortable to you in this process. For instance, as you learn about open adoption or closed adoption, you will know in your heart which one is best for you and just how open (or closed) the adoption should be. One thing to keep in mind is that we are all different. What might be right for one birthparent, isn’t for another. One set of birthparents may feel that a very open adoption is the best for them. Another birthmother or father may want to select an adoptive couple, meet them at the birth of the child and then close the adoption after that, knowing the child is in good hands. As you move through this process, your heart will tell you what is right for you!
Working with an adoption agency is a great way to ensure that prospective adoptive parents are qualified, screened and approved by professionals. There are many licensed adoption agencies in the United States. It is a good idea to call many of them to see what adoption agency is the best fit. You will know when you have found the right one because it will feel “right” to you. Have a list of questions to ask each adoption agency — this can help you compare and contrast. Agencies such as A Act of Love Adoptions thoroughly screen adoptive couples. They offer classes that adoptive families attend to help them in their preparation for adoption. These classes include a birthparent panel where families can learn first-hand from parents that have placed children for adoption. A Act of Love classes also help adoptive parents learn about hair and skin care for different ethnics. In addition, A Act of Love also requires each adoptive parent to be CPR certified.
After you have selected an agency and begin the matching process, you will be given some profiles. A profile is like a mini scrap book of an adoptive couple. It is usually a collection of pictures and descriptions of life events, vacations, hobbies and family. In viewing profiles you will find yourself having feelings one way or another toward these couples. This is a good thing. Be honest in the way you feel. Put those you like in a pile and the others you don’t connect with in another pile. You can re-read the ones you like and list the qualities you like about each couple. You can also list the similarities between you and them. For instance, if you love music and play an instrument, the parents in the profile may enjoy music or teach piano. Another connection may be your love of the outdoors. You might view pictures of an adoptive couple hiking or camping. How do you feel about pets? Religion? Large families vs. small families? These are all things to consider as you view the profiles.
Profiles can also be found on various on-line websites. Myadoptionagencies.com now has profiles of adoptive couples for birthparents to see. There are many other sites as well. As you view on-line profiles, make sure to note the website and the adoptive couple information so you can inquire further about them. Always make sure the adoptive couple has had a background screening and has been cleared to adopt.
After you have found profiles you are interested in, ask your adoption agency if you can interview the couples. This can be done by phone, Skype or in person. Have a list of questions or subjects you would like to talk about. Having a list helps if you get nervous and your mind goes blank. Interviewing adoptive couples will help you narrow down your options. It is always good to see how you “click” with them in person. As you do the interviews, your choices may change, for instance if one couple was your top choice and the interview with the couple that was your third choice went so well, you may decide you like them better. After the interview, go back to your original list of qualities and add/delete to what you have already listed. At this point you may want to eliminate some or all of the couples but one. If you are still undecided, you may ask for another interview or more information on the couples you are deciding between. Between your heart and your mind, you will know who the right adoptive couple is for you and your baby.
Once you have selected the adoptive couple, you will experience a sense of relief and peace. You will be able to begin picturing your child with them; having all the wonderful opportunities and experiences you want for your baby. As you continue this journey of adoption, which will now include your adoptive couple, be open and honest with yourself and them, keep the lines of communication open and speak often with your agency caseworker. This can help things move smoothly through the birth and placement process.
As you move through your adoption plan, remind yourself that you are making the best decision for yourself, your other children (if you have some), and this baby. Adoption decisions are never easy but in most circumstances they are the right decisions. Surround yourself with people that support your decision and an adoption agency that will offer you good counseling. Commend yourself for giving your child life and for offering the most precious gift ever to your loving adoptive couple. Your journey will not end at placement and your child will be forever grateful to you for putting his/her needs before that of your own.
A few years ago around Thanksgiving time, a young mother from California contacted A Act of Love Adoption Agency about information on placing her twenty-month old baby for adoption. She tearfully explained that she was working night and day and still couldn’t make enough money to provide for all the needs of her child. She further expressed that she was behind on her immunizations and the environment she was growing up in was not good for a child.
After meeting with the adoption agency staff, meeting with a counselor several times and taking her daughter to the pediatrician to bring her shots up to date, this birthmother completed all the up-front paperwork and re-confirmed that this was the best thing for her child. Although she was very sad, she was ready to move forward with adoption.
A Act of Love agency staff contacted adoptive couples that were open to adopting a toddler. Several couples were excited and wanted their profile to be shown. One couple was particularly excited and amazed. This was a childless couple. Several years earlier, the adoptive mom had dreamed about a toddler being placed in her arms. After seeing a photo of the littler girl, she knew this was her daughter — she was the child in her dream.
None of this was known by the agency or the birthmother as she received the profiles of the different adoptive couples. Upon reviewing all the profiles, the birthmother selected one and felt strongly they were the right parents for her daughter. Upon hearing the news, this couple wept in gratitude — it was the adoptive mom who had had the dream. A conference call was arranged for the birthmother and adoptive parents to talk. It was as though they had known each other for years. They were able to talk easily and happily. A plan was set for them to meet and begin a transition for the child.
About a week later, the adoptive parents, birthmother and child met for the first time, together with A Act of Love Adoptions agency staff. It was a beautiful meeting. The child went immediately to the adoptive parents where they began to play with toys together on the floor. The birthmother was relaxed and relieved as she watched her naturally gravitate toward the couple. After a couple hours it seemed like a family reunion. The child sat contently on the adoptive Dad’s lap while birth mom & adoptive mom chatted aimlessly about everything….comparing interests, hobbies, favorite foods and stores.
The next day they met again and as the adoptive couple walked in the room, the little girl excitedly raised her arms for them to pick her up! This gave the birth mom great comfort watching the bonding taking place. Several happy hours were spent with all of them together and the two Moms talked in detail about the child’s schedule, her food likes & dislikes and favorite toys. Later that evening, the child’s biological grandmother came with the birth mom to meet the adoptive couple. Again, it was an incredible meeting where it seemed like old friends uniting. As they were leaving, the grandmother commented on how happy she was to have been there. She was nervous and reluctant about coming but was so glad she did.
The birthfather had been contacted prior to the birthmother making the adoption decision and he agreed to sign the paperwork relinquishing his rights. They no longer had a relationship and he did not have a relationship with the child. On the third day, the birthfather signed his paperwork and the birthmother signed a few hours later.
The birth mom and adoptive parents and child met again that night and the birth mom placed her daughter in their arms. The daughter would be staying with them that night and they made plans to meet up the next morning. The next morning came and there were tears of sorrow and joy. They all held each other for a long time; each in gratitude for the other but knowing the relationship was not ending there. The adoption agency staff helped them all to create an agreement for a very open adoption and plans were set for a visit in the upcoming year. What an incredible Christmas gift for all!
I will never forget this amazing journey. Watching my beautiful baby boy leave the hospital without me and the beautiful peace I held in my heart was nothing but God. Ok maybe I should start from the beginning. Let’s go back in time for a sec…
25 years old, single mother, 2 kids a boy and a girl (a yr apart and by the same father) I was pretty much set. I had a good job and was in school so I was pretty content UNTIL I got pregnant with my 3rd child. I literally lost my mind. My children were taken away from me by my mother who lived a state away from me. I lost my job and failed out of school. My relationship with my youngest daughter’s father was suffering as well. I was depressed angry and hurt and I stayed that way for the next 13 months.
I began to get myself together and went to therapy. Things started going in the right direction. My relationship was great and I was slowly back in my kids lives Once again devastating news…I was pregnant. See the thing with me is I only wanted 2 kids and I was completely happy with my first 2 and I wanted it to stay that way but it didn’t so I was stuck with a 3rd one and now here comes a 4th one…yeah right. I just knew I was getting an abortion. Well that didn’t happen either. Time went too fast and money was never right for me to do so. I tried to ignore the fact that I was pregnant but obviously it doesn’t go away.
I began looking into adoption agencies and for some reason chose Act of Love Adoptions. What a great choice that was. From beginning to end the support and love these ladies have for you is 100% GENUINE. I lost my apartment in July so they offered to move me and my boyfriend to Utah until the baby was born. My boyfriend was fine with the adoption but didn’t want to be involved with picking the family or having an open adoption like I wanted to. So when it came time to pick the family it was all up to me. The adoption agency took care of everything else Dr. appts, transportation, food, shelter…they even provided their friendship. I grew close to these ladies. I looked at family profiles and one stood out to me so I set it aside. But once we Skyped it was defiantly confirmed. I got goose bumps and started crying cause I knew that I knew that I knew this family was the family for him. So when the day came that I finally went into labor I had no idea what I was in for. I seen my beautiful baby and I knew I loved him but my decision was firm but what I didn’t know was my boyfriend was gonna change his mind and he did. He never met the family and now that he seen his son he didn’t want to let him go. My son’s adoptive mom flew in and kept a realistic hope about the situation. She didn’t want to get to happy or have her hopes too high in case things didn’t work out. I was so sad to tell the ladies that my boyfriend did not support my decision to give the baby up. Even though my boyfriend already signed the relinquishment papers and I didn’t yet I wanted to just go forward with it no matter what he said but that just wasn’t the right thing to do. So they had to tell Cindy (changed the name for privacy) our decision.
After making that decision we were sitting in the hospital and the air was straight thick. My boyfriend and I had so much tension and things just weren’t right, even with our baby there. We knew we couldn’t support him. We had nothing and no where to take him to. I even tried to convince Cindy and her husband to just continue on with this because his papers are already signed and respectfully they took my boyfriend’s decision into consideration and said we would never overstep that decision because he is a father as well and knows how it feels. Once my boyfriend heard that his heart opened up, he cried he hugged me and said that’s a good man, that’s who I want to raise my son. So I called the ladies (adoption agency) back while I was still in the hospital and told them that my boyfriend wanted to place our son with him and he now wanted to be a part of the open adoption.
Fast forward Cindy came back we took lots of pictures and my baby boy is doing wonderful. It’s only been 3 months and I got pictures and letters twice. My boyfriend and I got married and are trying to move in the right direction. I did experience sadness and even postpartum depression. But the peace that I have about my decision still remains the same. I am so grateful to this adoption agency.
Now to you. Don’t be afraid to follow your heart. If you know placing your baby for adoption is right for both of you then that’s all you need. People will try to change your decision and may even tell you that they’ll be there to help with the baby but let me tell you if it does happen- it’s temporary. You are the one stuck with raising that child until he/she is grown. There is nothing wrong with giving your baby up for adoption. Pray about it and follow your heart. You will have all the support you need through Act of Love.
Wishing you all the best and lots of love,
Last month Americans celebrated November as National Adoption Month. A time for birth parents, adoptive families and adopted children to join together and forge a sense of unity, this event celebrates and raises awareness for adoption agencies and programs.
A Act of Love Adoption Agency understands America’s critical need to place children with adoptive families, including those in foster care. While A Act of Love focuses on working with birth parents and adoptive parents, they support placing children of all ages in caring, loving homes.
National Adoption Month helps provide Americans and adoption agencies with practical information about creating adoption campaigns, including those that are social media based. They believe in helping spread the word about how adoption can change lives, providing firsthand stories of the children and young adults waiting to be adopted.
This year, President Obama announced a proclamation announcing that each child deserves the ability to reach his/her full potential and be adopted into a family. Just as former First Lady Hillary Rodham Clinton stated, “It takes a village to raise a child,” so too does a successful adoption process. This month helps celebrate and honor the bond that develops and unites both adoptive parents and adoptive children, helping raise them in a safe, secure environment that focuses on love and learning.
As our nation’s government makes a critical call for action, reminding Americans of the important task of raising our nation’s children, adoptive parents are also celebrated, their hard-earned achievements recognized, as many continue to eliminate racial and discriminatory barriers that separate families.
President Obama states that his Administration supports and advocates every child having a loving parent-guided home. Partnering with a number of community and faith-based organizations across the U.S., this national program is designed to work with private, state, local and tribal governments to place children with adoptive families.
The month of November pays tribute and homage to the dedicated adoption professionals who strive to help every child find a loving, permanent home, while celebrating successful adoption stories from around our nation.
Act of Love Adoptions is a proud sponsor of National Adoption Month, supporting the work of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Children’s Bureau and the Child Welfare Information Gateway. A Act of Love’s mission statement reads: “To Service Children – to help build loving families who share the joy of living and loving together.” They urge birth mothers and adoptive parents to contact them for additional information. They offer chat services, dedicated telephone lines and email contact options.
So you’ve got all your paperwork done, the social worker from your adoption agency has visited your home, now you’re ready for the baby, right? You’re thinking tomorrow would be good, right? Unfortunately, it doesn’t usually happen for most adoptive families that way. Depending on what you’re looking for in a child and which adoption agency or adoption agencies you’re working with, most families can expect a wait time of anywhere from a few months to a year or more.
Many families ask, “Why does it take so long?” A coworker I had once at an adoption agency liked to explain the process of waiting for an adoption like dating. You have things you’re looking for and birthparents have things they are looking for. It often takes time for that situation to come along that matches both at once. Some families are looking for a newborn; others want a little older child. Some families want a baby that looks like them, that is the same race as they are, others are wanting to share their home and love with a child of any background. Some birthmothers want to place their baby with a childless couple; others want to make sure their child has siblings. Some birthmoms want their child to be raised in the same religion they were or are drawn to families that share some of their same interests or hobbies. Between paperwork and conversations, adoption agencies get a feel for what each side is looking for. That helps them know which families a birthmom might want to select from as she is choosing a family for her baby. Occasionally, a birthmother will tell the agency what she wants but wants the agency to make the final choice. Make sure you know how the matching process works at your adoption agency.
It is so hard to wait. Like most things in life that are worth waiting for, it’ll all seem worth it when it’s over and the birthmom or adoption agency places the right child for you in your arms. Until then, hopefully the understanding of how the process works and why it may take some time will increase your patience. It really is WORTH IT!