Who do I want to visit me? Who do I want to visit the baby? Do I
want the prospective adoptive parents at the hospital? This is a
choice you make – there is no right or wrong decision. Do you want
them in the actual delivery room or just in the waiting area? Some
birth parents are comfortable having the adoptive family in the
delivery room and want the adoptive family to experience the birth.
The adoptive family will respect your choice, as will A Act of Love
How much time do I want to spend with my baby? Do I want to hold my
baby or feed my baby? Do I want my baby to room in with me? All of
these questions are an individal choice of the birth parents. Some
birth parents may want and need to say hello to their baby and have
the time to hold, cuddle, and feed their baby while others think that
would only make saying goodbye harder and opt to spend little or no
time with their baby. A Act of Love Adoptions staff will work with
you to help you make your choices.
Will I name my baby or will I just give my baby the name the adoptive
parents intend to use? You may be asked if you would like to give the
baby a name. You may already have a name selected or you may know the
name that the adoptive parents have chosen and give that name for the
birth records. Sometimes now in the more open adoptions, birthmoms
and the adoptive families may choose a name together.
What mementos from the hospital do I wish to bring home with me and
what do I wish to pass on to the adoptive family? Many birth parents
treasure their baby’s hospital bracelets, the cards that are on the
crib, newborn pictures, prints of hands and feet, and the tiny caps
placed on their heads minutes after birth. It is your choice to keep
these treasured items or to pass them on to the adoptive family. Some
hospitals offer some of these keepsakes and some do not and some are
willing to accommodate an adoption plan along with these items.
How do I wish to leave the hospital? Birth parents can choose to be
discharged at the same time as the baby and place the baby in the
adoptive families arms or choose to leave at a different time. Staff
at A Act of Love Adoptions will support your choices for discharge.