Recently, I had the opportunity to visit with a beautiful young woman to catch-up on her life. Colleen shared with me that she had recently graduated from college and was beginning her new career. The sparkle in her eyes exemplified the pride she felt in her accomplishments. She was most excited to have her own place and to start her life without sharing the refrigerator and bathroom time with her roommates. Decorating her home was the best!

Colleen also shared about her recent “slushy” visit with her little boy, Cole. Going to the park and getting a “slushy” was the perfect day! Spending time pushing him in the swing and reading stories on the blanket filled her heart with joy. Only a few words were spoken, but the depth of the feelings and her expressions spoke volumes. Cole refers to her as “mommy angel” and he understand that he grew in her tummy and his mommy and daddy’s heart. He knows beyond a doubt that he is loved and cherished by both.

With a big smile, she shared with me what her visits and post-adoption contact meant to her. Her explanation began by letting me know how important it is for her and Cole’s mom to be together in their approach with Cole. Colleen said, “Cole knows that what his mom says goes and I will always support the decisions she makes – she is the parent.”

As she continued to share, her eyes filled and a little tear slipped out her eye. She said, “You know, these are tears of joy and love. I know 100% that Cole is right where he should be.” Colleen continued to share how the visits and pictures made her parents happy. They are always so happy to get a picture and an update of Cole.  He has grown so much!!

Adoption is a community of those who care deeply about the joy and love of children. It is everyone working together to figure out the best way for a child to have the very most in life.  It is finding a way for all involved to move past pain and hurt to love and fulfillment. Birth parents love for their children is a boundless, unselfish, all-encompassing love. Words do not justly describe this kind of love.

Adoption professionals and counselors can help make the journey in adoption be a journey that can be healthy for all and most of all, the child. There are very difficult times during this journey, but with love, support and guidance adoption can be a win for everyone.

Working with an adoption counselor to plan the very best contact both during and after an adoption plan will help lead to healthy lives for all involved. You can be assured that the gift of working out a plan for post-adoption contact is the best gift you can give your child. A child will love, honor and admire both his parents and birth parents for their insight and willingness to work together for his good and well-being.  Contact Act of Love Adoptions today to find out more.