There is no doubt that placing a child is an emotionally demanding decision, but there is much encouragement in the fact that I had complete authority and freedom to choose a suitable home, family and adoption policy.

Mothers can chose between open and closed adoption, depending upon what feels more comfortable and what kind of relationship a mother will maintain with the child once the adoption has taken place. Open adoption is a form of adoption where the birth mother and adoptive families have access at varying degrees of each other’s personal information and an option of contact. Closed adoption is when and infant is adopted by another family, and the record of the biological parent is kept confidential.
Choosing an adoption policy was a really hard decision for me. Before working with an adoption agency I assumed it would be easier for my son if he didn’t know me at all but instead only knew his adoptive family as his parents and siblings. Act of Love encouraged me to consider all options.

Apparently times have changed to favor open adoption as the preferred adoption policy because both birth parents and adoptive families are known to the child and involved in the child’s life. So my son will grow up knowing who his mother is. African Americans are known to struggle with identity a lot. As 1st generation African, my son will be able to trace his lineage and know exactly which country he comes from. It’s a great gift I can give to him.

In addition, research favors open adoption because the child does not have to wonder where he came from or why he was placed with another family. I hope my son will feel like he can ask as many questions as he wants to clear up any confusion and prevent psychological issues.

For those considering adoption, the first step is to get in touch with a reputable agency, which can help you consider all options for you and your child. The adoption professional will try to make the entire process as well informed for you as possible.

If you have questions that I can help you answer about my adoption experience, please email Dee at adopt@aactofloveadoptions.com . Talking with others that have experienced open adoption provides a great opportunity for you to decide what is best for you.