In light of what I have seen in the media recently, I want to revisit my personal hopes for adoption. My purpose is to shed light on how wonderful adoption is and hopefully to get others to have a positive feeling about it.
Adoption is not usually the first choice parents make when they learn they are expecting. Ideally, a couple becomes pregnant and chooses to expand their family by raising the child. That is the way things should be, and there is nothing wrong with that. Children are great! Families are great! I love my own boys! However, adoption is a wonderful alternative when considering another option for your child.
When I was deciding between having an abortion (which was my initial choice) or placing my baby for adoption, I did tons of research on adoption. I was so shocked to see the negative commentary surrounding adoption. It was awful to see the reasons why some folks are against adoption. It was even more awful to see how harshly birth parents are judged for placing their child for adoption.
Adoption is NOT:
1) Selling a baby
2) Getting rid of a problem
3) Neglecting one’s responsibilities
4) Done for financial gain
5) An easy decision for birth parents
1) Saving a baby’s life (raising my baby was never an option, abortion was my first choice. Thank God for adoption!)
2) Doing what is best for an innocent baby (in some circumstances, decided by the birth parents)
3) The greatest loving sacrifice anyone can make on earth today
4) A blessing for the child and the child’s birth and adoptive families
5) A very difficult decision for birth parents
Adoption is not a scary thing as it is often portrayed in the media and TV. movies. The birth parents have control throughout the entire adoption process. They decide if they want to continue the adoption process. They decide whom to place their baby. If the birth parents want contact with the adoptive parents, they have a right to choose that.
It is so disheartening to hear people say I do not love my baby because I “gave him away.” *I did not give him away. He was not a doll that I outgrew. He was not an extra set of dishes I had no use for.* He was and is a beautiful baby boy, a blessing in my life, and a blessing to his family. Placing him for adoption was the hard thing to do; it was also the right thing to do.
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