As the birth mother, you’ll be the person deciding how open you want your adoption plan to be.  Although adoptive parents are not obligated to share with you the status of your child, most adoptive parents are happy to share pictures and letters with you about how your child is doing.

Everyone Deserves to Know Who Their Biological Mother Is

No child should be deprived of knowing who gave birth to them.  However, things change completely if you’re going through a “closed adoption”. A closed adoption is basically a form of adoption in which you keep your identity hidden from the adoptive parents. This is typically a more discrete form of an adoption. In cases like this, you shouldn’t expect to stay involved on how your baby is doing.

Most adoptions are open adoptions though, meaning that the birth parents and adoptive parents will be able to freely communicate with one another. When taking this route, speak with your adoption counselor about the amount of contact that you’re interested in having throughout the course of your child’s life. In many cases, adoptive parents won’t have any problems with you seeing your child or staying updated with pictures and letters.

It’s Healthy For a Child’s Development

Knowing where they came from can provide your child with a healthier development, as well as provide them with a stronger identity and feeling of self-worth. Adoptive families and birth mothers may find themselves entering a more complicated set of relationships, but is usually more rewarding for everyone.