Several years ago, a birthmother placed her baby boy with a sweet family through A Act of Love Adoption Agency. Since that time, she had two more children which she chose to parent. Then, she fell on some hard times again and learned she was pregnant. She was in the middle of what she called “a financial, emotional and physical crisis”. She pondered on what to do and which direction to turn. She was nervous to call Act of Love Adoptions because she thought her past adoptive family might think ill of her. But, she mustered up the courage and made the call. She was greeted with love and compassion. She discussed her situation with the adoption agency staff member and asked if it might be possible if her past adoptive couple could be contacted to see if they would be interested in adopting this baby. The agency had recently helped this couple with another adoption but wanted to inform them and let them make the decision.

After spending a couple of days thinking about it, the adoptive family called back and said that they didn’t think they could do another adoption so quickly. The adoptive family matching team began searching for an adoptive family that would be wonderful for this birthmother. Part of the search was looking for an adoptive family that would be willing to connect with the first adoptive family through correspondence (pictures & letters). It was important for the birthmother to provide an opportunity for the two children to know each other. The matching team was successful in finding adoptive families that would love to connect with the first adoptive family. The profiles were presented to the birthmother. She immediately selected a family and was thrilled that her two boys would grow up knowing each other. Because she had an open adoption the first time, she wanted the same type of openness this second time and was looking forward to seeing the boys grow-up through the wonderful pictures she would receive. When the time came for the birth, the baby was born healthy and beautiful! He looked just like his older, adopted brother. Everyone was thrilled on all sides and the birthmother expressed her relief and she felt she had made the right decision.

Birthmothers should never feel embarrassed or nervous to call A Act of Love Adoptions back after having worked with them before. In many cases, the adoptive families are more than excited to get the call saying their birthmother is expecting again and considering placing for adoption. When adoptive families receive this type of call, they are so grateful that the birthmother again chose to give this baby life and would call the adoption agency again to give them the opportunity. In some cases, the family is not in a position to adopt at that time. In those cases, A Act of Love will then work with the birthparent and make sure that they receive profiles of couples that are ready, waiting and wanting to be shown to her and they will continue to help her find the perfect couple for her baby.