After working in adoption for more than 10 years, the topic of abortion comes up quite often. I take phone calls from women who have an appointment at an abortion clinic, but are second guessing that decision. I talk to women who have had multiple abortions and are then considering placing a baby for adoption. I have talked to women who had one abortion and it affected them so deeply that when they found themselves pregnant again, they knew they needed to look into adoption rather than abortion. I talk to women who have been in life-threatening situations and had to have an abortion to save their own life, yet they still regret it. I heard the story of a woman who had several children with her boyfriend, and they were fighting for custody when she found out she was pregnant again. She decided abortion was the best option so there would not be another child involved in the custody battle. I have talked to birth mothers who are in a situation where the birth father wants an abortion to ‘take care of the problem.’

I talk to women in all circumstances in life. But, when I talk to them about abortion, almost all of them were surprised at how deeply the choice affected them. Almost all of them wonder what their child would have looked like, what color hair they would have had, and what their personality would be like. I have had so many women express the trauma they went through after having an abortion.

November is adoption awareness month. We would love to offer you the adoption option. If you are pregnant and contemplating adoption, we would love to help you or anyone you know with an adoption plan. Have them call Act of Love Adoption Agency at 1-800-835-6360. Their call will be answered by our caring staff. Adoption changes lives in a positive way. Make a difference.