I recently talked to a dear friend of mine who expressed her feelings on adoption. She and her husband have been considering adoption for many years now. Something she said struck a chord with me. She fears that the birth parents will change their minds about placing their child for adoption, resulting in a loss of a baby that she had hoped to love and cherish as her own.

Prospective adoptive parents go through a lot during the adoption process. They are examined, investigated, and every aspect of their lives is scrutinized. The matching process is challenging for adoptive parents, and once a match is established, an instant bond forms between adoptive and birth parents.

There is stress on both sides. Both families have to proceed with the adoption process in faith. Birth parents can choose to change their minds about their adoption plan; they can choose not to place or simply not to place with the family they originally chose. Adoptive parents can also decide not to go through with an adoption.

While birth parents have to go through the emotional trauma of losing a child through adoption, adoptive parents have to accept the fact that even though they are matched, the birth parents can still change their minds about placing with them.

One of the most important questions I had for Matt’s parents was how committed they were to keeping a semi-open adoption. I needed to know that I would receive updates throughout Matt’s life. In most places, adoptive and birth families make a good faith agreement on the level of openness of the adoption. Adoptive parents are not legally bound to maintain an open adoption or semi-open adoption. *You will need to discuss this with the adoption agency you choose, as this varies from state to state.*

Act of Love Adoption Agency works with the prospective adoptive parents closely, and if you are looking for an open or semi-open adoption, they will show you profiles of those families who genuinely desire the same thing. They are great at matching birth parents to adoptive parents. This is one reason why they are successful in facilitating successful adoptions.

Call Act of Love today to speak with an adoption professional about open and closed adoptions.  Act of Love has been working with birth parents and adopting families for over twenty years and is a leader in providing first-rate services and adoption consultation.  Birth Parents can reach Act of Love 24/7 at 800-835-6360 or by text at 801-450-0094.  You can talk with Skylar about her adoption experience by emailing adopt@aactofloveadoptions.com. Private appointments can be scheduled, along with a monthly Adoptive Family Orientation the first Tuesday of each month.  Adoptive families can call 888-767-7740 or 801-572-1696.  Personal references available and testimonials at www.aactofloveadoptions.com.