Whether it was an unplanned pregnancy, you simply can’t handle a child financially, physically, or emotionally, placing a child for adoption can be a foreign experience. As the birth mother, you’re going to need to ignore social stereotypes, and above all, never feel embarrassed or disgraced about your decision.

#1: People Are Going to Judge You
Hopefully you’re in a situation where your friends and family members are going to support you throughout the adoption process. Just don’t count on it. You should feel proud of your decision, and know that it’s going to benefit your child in the long run. Social pressures from the birth father, the adoptive parents, and friends and family members may attempt to persuade your decision in one direction or another. Know that this is your decision and yours only to make.
#2: You Have Rights
As the birth mother, you have the right to determine who your baby is going to live with. If you decide to place your baby with another family, you can choose that family. On the flipside, if you decide not to place your child then the same principle applies- no one can force you to change your mind one way or another.
#3: There Are Support Groups Available
Once the adoption has been finalized, and your child is with their new family, you’ll want to speak with a support group. This is a great way to remain connected to your feelings and make friends with mothers who are in a similar situation. Fortunately, there are many quality support groups available both online as well as in-person. Although placing your child with another family can feel like a difficult decision, you should feel some peace of mind knowing that it’s the best decision that you could have made for your child.

If you have questions for Dee, email Dee at adopt@aactofloveadoptions.com.  To speak with an understanding and caring adoption professional you can text 801-450-0094, email actofloveadoptions@yahoo.com or call the 24 hour/7 day a week hotline at 800-835-6360.  Your information is private and confidential.  We are here to help you!