Dear Birth Mom,
This must be a very challenging time for you, and we understand that this journey cannot have been easy. We admire you so much for your bravery and your willingness to make this decision. Please trust that we will always honor your decision, and honor you to your baby. For the sake of the baby and all of us, we are happy to keep a connection with you, if that is what you wish.
We appreciate you taking the time to learn more about us. We hope that we can talk, and learn together if we would be a good match for your child. This could be the first step toward a lifelong connection!
We met 12 years ago, and while some people say they feel a “spark” when they meet The One, it felt more like a “click” for us – we immediately felt like friends who had known each other for years. We dated for a few years before taking the plunge and marrying 8 years ago. We had two memorable weddings: one in Jessica’s town in the South and one in Rushi’s town in India.
Since meeting we’ve enjoyed many adventures together, including living in Japan and India as well as in the UK where we live now. We’ve become close to each other’s friends and families and enjoy spending time with them. We share a lot of the same hobbies, mainly hiking and exploring, spending time with our friends and their children, and spending long weekends out of town.
Jessica is from the southern US and is close with her parents, step-parents and siblings. She grew up in a small town, with lots of woods, a pond, and plenty of animals. That upbringing sparked a love of nature and animals that continues today.
Jessica loves languages and traveling, and spent time volunteering in a refugee camp in Ghana, backpacking around southern Africa, doing research with farmers in China, and researching microfinance in India. Jessica works hard at an investment bank, and for work she travels occasionally to Africa and the Middle East.
In her down time she likes to spend time outside. She has close friends across the US and the UK; she loves spending time with them and their kids, going to museums or playing with Legos. After adopting, Jessica intends to take a step back from work and try to create the home life she’s always dreamed of, with lots of playtime, reading and baking together.
Rushi is from India and moved to Europe when he was 17. He went to university in the UK and most of his close friends today are from university. Rushi has a large extended family spread across India, the US and Europe and he keeps in close touch with them. He is particularly close to his younger brother and his brother’s son, and they video chat every week.
Rushi loves reading and learning, and even dabbles in writing. He is patient and creative, and he enjoys tinkering, whether that’s with bikes, new recipes, or jobs around the house!
Rushi works in technology and spent many years in banking before moving into a smaller start-up year ago. He loves the flexibility that his new job gives him and he intends to continue having a flexible schedule after adopting.
Our families are spread out across the US, Europe and India, but we stay in constant contact through texting and video chat.
Jessica has a sister and brother in the US, and Rushi has one younger brother in the US as well as many uncles, aunts and cousins. Between our siblings, parents and extended family, we go to the US at least once a year but usually 2-3 times a year.
Rushi’s parents live in Europe and he has family in the UK too. We see the UK family and Rushi’s parents every few months.
We have one cat, Snotra, whom we adopted when she was already 7 years old. She’s 16 years old now so she’s more like an opinionated grandmother living with us!
We live in the best neighborhood! Within a 10-minute walk of our apartment, we have several daycares, a doctor’s office, a playground, a big field, a wetlands park, and the river, which has a great path for walking and cycling.
We live in a comfortable 2-bedroom apartment, which overlooks a private community garden. On our great (baby-proofed) balcony, Jessica loves to put out flowers and shrubs, which our cat eats straight away!
While we sometimes think about moving to a bigger house, we love our neighborhood so much that it’s hard to leave! Also, most of our close friends live within a 10-minute drive of us so we enjoy hosting each other on weekends or getting together at local restaurants often.
Our journey to adoption:
We knew since we got married that we wanted to have children. However, after several years we realized that we would not be able to have biological children, and that the path we are meant to take is adoption. Through it all we have relied on each other for support and understanding, which has helped our relationship grow and deepen.
While we haven’t been able to start our family naturally, we have learned that family comes in many different shapes and forms. We understand that an adopted child will come from a different culture than our own. Being from different cultures ourselves, we have honored each other’s heritage while creating our own traditions. We look forward to honoring your child’s background while creating new traditions together.
Thank you for considering us – we hope to hear from you!