To all of our beautiful birth parents that have so loving chosen adoption. Your Act of Love family honors and celebrates you!!! You are all amazing and brave. The incredibly unselfish decision of adoption you made for your children has blessed and brought joy and happiness to their lives.
Birth mothers place their children for a variety of reasons. So, how exactly will you find happiness once you’ve placed your baby? While it isn’t always easy, you can definitely achieve much more peace of mind with support groups and counseling from mothers who have been in the same situation.
Join a Support Group
An online search is a perfect place to start looking for a support group that can help you feel better about your decision. You’ll definitely want to verbalize your feelings during the first few months after giving birth. Holding in negative thought patterns isn’t healthy, and won’t be a way of reclaiming your life once you’ve placed your child. If you prefer, there are also in-person support groups that you could join, although you’ll need to perform Google searches on where the ones nearest to you are located as they vary from city to city. Your adoption agency can usually get you in contact with one.
Find Happiness in Your Baby’s Future
During the first few months after giving birth, you may occasionally have feelings of regret. Know that this is completely normal. As human beings, we tend to second-guess our decisions a lot, even if those decisions are logically sound. The fact is that you made a good decision that is ultimately going to provide your baby with a better quality life. And guess what? That in itself should make you feel happy! Although the decision was hard, you made a sacrifice that is going to put your child in good hands.
Finally, if you have supportive friends and family members to lean on during these emotionally trying times, try to speak with them often about how you’re feeling.