What should you do? You’re pregnant for the second time within months of placing your last baby for adoption. You may be thinking thoughts like, “this is so embarrassing,” or “I could never call the last agency I placed with because they will think less of me for being pregnant again.” If these are the kinds of things running through your mind, STOP THEM RIGHT NOW! First of all, A Act of Love Adoption Agency does not judge the birthparents and adoptive parents they work with. A Act of Love staff understands that “life happens” and usually for a reason. Never, ever, be embarrassed to call A Act of Love Adoption Agency for a second time. In repeat cases, the birthparents are asked if they would like the previous adoptive parents to be contacted to see if they would be in a position to consider adopting a part or full sibling to their child. In many, many situations, this works out and the children are raised together as siblings in the same family. In many other cases, where the former adoptive parents are unable to adopt the next child, the birthparents have given permission to allow the two adoptive couples of their children to meet and get to know each other so that the children will grow up knowing their sibling. Of course, all parties would be in agreement before this happens. Birthparents also may think that the adoptive parents might be judgmental or think less of them for being pregnant again. This is just not the case. So many adoptive parents are thrilled with the news that another child could be brought into their home. Most will do just about anything to be able to adopt again.
This recently occurred with some birthparents from California. After getting up the nerve to call her last caseworker, the birthmother felt so relieved when she was greeted with love and an understanding shoulder to lean on. Many unforeseen things had happened since their last placement, eight months prior, and life was a little difficult. After calling A Act of Love, the birthmother expressed her appreciation and talked about how apprehensive she was to make the call. She was very glad she did and a week later was even more thrilled to learn that her previous adoptive couple was doubly excited about the prospect of having two children! They were surprised and excited upon receiving the call from A Act of Love. After taking a few days to let the news sink in, they took a good inventory of their current life situation and determined bringing a new baby into their home was the right thing for them! They then began all the preparations and paperwork for adopting again.
If you are pregnant and thinking of placing your child for adoption, whether you’ve placed a baby before, or for the first time, call A Act of Love Adoption Agency at 800 835-6360. The staff of Act of Love is well qualified to answer your adoption questions and talk with you about their real life experiences in adoption. Each staff member has been touched personally by adoption. It is why they work in this field. They love adoption and they love those they work with. They can explain the differences between open and closed adoption. They can help you understand the adoption process. They can help alleviate some of the stress you are feeling. Don’t be afraid, embarrassed or worried to call. You will be glad you did.