As a birthmother waited patiently for the adoptive family and their new baby to arrive at our office, she talked about her feelings on the adoption. She expressed her gratitude to A Act of Love for helping her find the perfect adoptive couple for her child. Over the last several months and looking at many family profiles, she had selected them. Then, through Skype calls and telephone calls she began to love and trust them. Once she met them in person, she became very close to them.
Sharing experiences, such as doctor visits together; helped bond the birthmother and the adoptive parents she had selected. Seeing the joy on their faces as they were able to see the baby on the ultrasound screen, helped the birthmother in her process of knowing that this child would be so loved and taken care of. Each time she met with them, she felt closer to them and she knew they loved and cared for her as much as they would her child. This is a wonderful gift that an adoptive family can give to a birthmother — the knowledge that not only is her baby loved but she is loved as well.
When the family arrived in the office after their first night of having the baby at home, they all laughed at the lack of sleep they had experienced. The adoptive mother lovingly handed the baby to the birthmother who cuddled the child. Pictures were taken and talk of the birth and the hospital stay came naturally. It was an easy, enjoyable and non-stressful visit. It was a beautiful time for all of them to spend together before they said goodbye.
When the time came for the final goodbye, tears were shed and beautiful promises were made. The common bond they had formed was the love for each other and this beautiful baby, who was given life and now had a wonderful life ahead. As with so many adoptions now, the openness they will share will continue to increase the bonds of love and will allow this child to know how many people love her. Questions she has about her birthparents can be answered, the wondering about her heritage needn’t happen. She will be able to have information about her biological family.
A Act of Love Adoption Agency offers birthparents the opportunity to create the type of open adoption that they feel the most comfortable with. As with the adoption in this story, birthparents can choose to have a very open relationship with the adoptive couple. Act of Love then presents profiles of adoptive parents willing to have the same openness as the birthparents are requesting. Not every birthparent chooses an open adoption, but it is a choice.
For more information on adoption, contact A Act of Love Adoption Agency at 801 572-1696 for online at aactofloveadoptions.com.